Mom to Mom Chat
Parenting these days is so much about upping each other in being what you think is THE perfect Mother. You spend so many hours stressing about what your child is putting in their body, putting on their body, watching too much of, watching to little of. It is stressful AF and to be honest, useless. Your child isn’t going to think back about their childhood and be like, oh thank goodness my mom limited my screen time and only fed me organic, forcing me to eat only raw vegetable because that’s what ‘studies show’ is best.
Il’ll admit I was this mom for a good year or so. I would absolutely refuse anything that I didn’t know wasn’t organic and I tried my hardest to get my son to like raw vegetables or vegetables in general without any vegan butter etc. YAH RIGHT. I also didn’t allow screen time at all. Lucas still only has a minimum amount of screen time. He has grown to love the wiggles so he has 10 minutes every other day to watch.
So, to all you moms out there stressing about making sure your children have the exorbitantly expensive shoes that will give them perfect posture and the $40 sunscreen that won’t cause cancer, this one is for you! .. I was also the mama who bought that $40 sunscreen for Lucas and his porcelain skin.
TRY NOT TO READ FACEBOOK STUDIES. SO MUCH CONFLICTING.
Most of the time they aren’t even written by a medical doctor and to be honest, you don’t need that stress and doubt on your motherhood plate. I constantly would doubt myself, you know where that got me? No where but stressville.
TRY NOT TO STRESS ABOUT WHAT YOUR KIDS PUT IN THEIR MOUTH
As long as it isn’t a choking hazard, I always think go for it. From dropped soothers, to the dirt from your veggie garden, it will only help your child develop a better immune system. I was a paranoid mama since I use to have a huge germaphobe issue myself… Now Lucas is a toddler and even before would suck on windows…. Or lick them. What a window licker. Building a immune system is so important and regardless how they do it through eating sand or dirt!
In a day and age where screens and technology is EVERYWHERE, (kids are learning coding at like 3 years old) we need to worry more about the content that they are watching, not the amount. Although this is a tough one for me, my son only has 10 minutes every other day or couple of days to watch the wiggles or an education cartoon/show. I personally do not believe screen time in beneficial unless it is slowed down and educational. I still would never recommend it.
DISINFECTING YOUR HOUSE TO THE EXTREME NEEDS TO STOP.
Disinfecting your home can cause more harm than good if you don’t have the proper cleaners! A lot of house hold cleaners are actually very toxic unless you’re aware and us Thieves or natural disinfectants. Regardless, disinfecting to the extreme can make building a immune system hard! Live in a little filth why dontcha.
TRY NOT TO FREAK OUT ABOUT YOUR CHILD TOUCHING A PUBLIC AREAS FLOOR
We look as this as a free flu shot. They get just enough of any germs on the surface to build up immunity AND they are happier kids because aren’t cooped up. which brings me to my next point. Im still learning this one because I still scoop Lucas up if he tries to touch something I think is gross or too dirty. We’re all a work in progress! :)
STOP FREAKING OUT ABOUT WHAT THEY EAT
If my son wants to eat lentils every day this month for dinner, I’m going to let him because I’d rather he have some food in his belly that is half nutritious, than becoming scarily underweight because I am forcing food he doesn’t want or like onto him. Its just like the breastfeeding drama these days. It should only matter that your child is being fed enough, with happy belly, not the specifics. I just found out Lucas is thriving plantbased toddler and his levels are all perfection. YEEAAS parenting win. Especially when I worry every day if he’s getting enough nutrients!
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO ALL THE OTHER MOMS
You know whats right for YOUR kids. It actually is scientific. So, stop comparing. You do you. And no one knows how to teach or to discipline your children better than you. If time outs work even though “studies show they isolate kids” do the GD time out. Be your own parental advice. And if your baby weight came off slower than Suzy down the road, so what. Those extra curves look amazing on you and you should rock them with confidence.
We should all take a page out of our parents 80’s and 90’s playbook. their biggest worries in life were keeping us un-pregnant and away from drugs. So, give them the chips, turn the tv on and have fun with your kids.